30 Days of Kink
Wee ok so I have been a bit of a slacker it happens sorry my dears!
Here is the last two days for my 30 days of kink, I hope you all enjoyed getting to know me a bit better!
Day 29: Do you have a BDSM title (e.g. mistress, master, slut, pig, whore, princess, goddess, ma’am, sir)? What is your opinion of the use of titles in general?
Well my Daddy calls me Little one, little girl, love or babe, My Friends call me Littles or little one ( I’m kinda short and get lost in crowds easy)
Day 30: Whatever BDSM/kink related thing you want to write about. I have really enjoyed getitng into my own head and answering these, I hope they provide a real life look at the girl behind the phone sex calls. I am a real person who has real thoughts, emotions, desiers, and a real and somewhat messy history. Thanks for reading and of course any questions feel free to get in touch!
To for one special today
Day 27: Do your non-kink interests ever find their way into your kinky activities? If so, how? Well, my day job is with children and I do kinda enjoy the concept of being a little occasionally. But the two really don’t cross, like im not thinking naughty at work, and when im playing i’m not thinking about my kiddos. So not so much really
Day 28: How do you dress for kink/BDSM play? What significance does your attire have to you?
I dress comfy, black dress, maybe a school girl outfit… but i am not a leather junkie, or a fan of latex and what not. I think being comfortable allows me to be myself, open and honest and relaxed.
Day 26: What’s your opinion on online BDSM play?
I think it is really hard to know who you are really with. My early days of exploration where online and I was a bit under age, the people I was with had no idea, and that really is not fair to to them. So to me its a double edged sward, it can be a great way to learn enough to feel comfortable exploring, but it can also be a way to get burned out, or hurt.
I do of course love doing naughty chats new and then, and the written word can be very erotic and if you “know” the person behind the words it can be very powerful so I am hesitant to throw it all out the window and say it is bad
Day 25: How open are you about your kinks?
I am fairly open, I do however choose whom and how I tell people what I am and what I do. My family is pretty clueless,my friends/acquaintances may know a little bit, but no real details, my close friends know that I work in the adult industry, and my kink-friendly friends know everything (note you don’t have to be kinky to be kink friendly) So it really depends on your role in my life.
Day 24: What qualities do you look for in a partner?
I need someone who captures my attention, who is strong and able to withstand the storms of life. So I try and find grounded, well educated, emotionally safe, people to play with.
Opps, I have been very naughty! and not been keeping up on here. Who wants to be the one to punish me?
But here is day 23, and the new few days should be coming right on time! I promise
Day 23: Since you first developed an interest in kink, have your interests/perspectives changed? How so?
My interests and such have not changed, but I have. I was very mousey and quite and unsure of myself and in exploring this side of me more I have totally came out of my shell more!
Day 22: What do you think is important in keeping a BDSM relationship healthy? How does it differ from a vanilla relationship?
This one is easy for me! I have been in a kinky relationship, that is long term and I can honestly say the most important thing is Trust. Trust is what allows a person to take control of another body and use it for their mutual enjoyment, trust is what allows a person to give their body wholly to another. Trust is what foster the communication that is needed to keep everyone on the same page, trust is what allows the raw emotion and energy to play out, with out trust nothing else can be, and with out trust everything else is compromised.
To me, that is different than a vanilla relationship because trust can come and go more in a non kink relationship. A waffling in trust between a couple who lives seprate lifes, works 9-5 and has normal sex in a normal bedroom, with normal everything can screw up and fix it, because there is rarely that raw emotion, that pure energy and that pure weakness, there is now power to exchange and there is no safety that needs to be sought, their whole relationship is based off of normal and equal and even, when something shakes them up they fix it and move on.
When in a power exchange type of relationship, when I have to know with out a doubt that the person who is topping me will stop when i am at the cliff of no return, the utter end and all that lies before me is the black abyss of my mind, I need to know that he will stop and save me from the nothingness before it engulfs me, and that is built on trust, when even the slightest dent happens with trust, things start to get scaled back, suddenly I am not able to go to the very edge anymore, and if i can’t push myself to the edge with him, and the power exchange is over because I am keeping power for myself and I am fighting him instead of giving to him, its a battle not a gift anymore, and that slowly eats away the soul and energy of a relationship. At least, its that big of a deal for me, other thoughts may very And I also base my assumptions of relationships based off the one really long term vanilla relationship/marriage I had, other relationships are obviously different but for me, that was my experience.
Day 20: Talk about something within kink/bdsm that you’re curious about/don’t understand.
Opps I missed posting yesterday, forgive me!
I think I have a pretty good handle on kink and have a pretty decent understanding of all the things that interest me! Do you have an idea you think would stump me? something so dirty I can’t wrap my head around it? Something so depraved and naughty that a sweet little girl like me couldn’t possible understand… give me a call, I’d love to hear it!
Day 21: Favorite BDSM related book (fiction or non-fiction)
Hands down the Anne Rice Sleeping Beauty Series.
Day 19: Any unexpected ways kink has improved your life? If so, what are they?
Being Kinky got me out of a less than ideal marriage, being able to be myself and find people who liked me, for me, gave me the strength to forge relationships with others and eventually find the one I would be with long term.
Day 18: Any kinky/BDSM pet peeves? If so, what are they?
I love being submissive, I love playing the role, I love the power exchange, but there is some sort of expectation that goes along with me bottoming to you. Therefore, If it is not pre~negoitated, do not expect me to call you Sir/Daddy/Dom whatever title you like. I choose to play the game and I choose my role in the game you do not get to decide for me. Along the same line, respect is gained and earned… you do not get it by default.
That being said, I enjoy what I do, and so long as we are chatting and having a good time and good energy between us, I have no problem slipping into a submissive role/bottom role.